thanks meatloafster but upon checking there is no mention of the info i mentioned.
i will describe what i found as clearly as possible:
in the campaign mode (not the battle mode) left click one of your own towns.
this will bring up the display panel at the bottom of the screen with four tabs at the top of the panel. the tabs are army, town, agents, and fleet.
if you right click on the tabs you will get a summary info list for the specific type of 'tab' you chose.
example:
if you right click on the army tab you get a list of all of your named family members, their skills (command, management, influence), the number of troops they are currently controlling, and some other things i can remember.
try it, it is quite useful.